Bunch of invincibles
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Real Vs Virtual :- By Jitendra on BUF
I am going to ruffle a few feathers through this post. Not that I always want to differ with everyone, but I definitely beg to differ with the general opinion here on VR.
Some of you have cited instances - touching ones - of people who they hadnt met/seen helping them like no *real* person would, who they confide to although they havent met them in person, and suchlike. Well, how does that make the *relationship* itself more real? That the so-called real people are less friendly is a sweeping statement. IMO, it is really upto the individual if s/he wants to go out of the way and help others. Virtuality has nothing to do with it. That people are willing to confide to a friend they met online is actually understandable because this whole virtual medium provides you an anonymity and a safe cucoon to unleash your feelings. Why else do we have some people with fake names here on BUF? Not many, but there are some I am sure. Its a matter of individual choice and none of my business but this is the very reason why this whole system of friendship over net/blog/orkut/whatever is virtual and wonderful. As I said before, reality is all about perceptions. Virtual media dont always give you a representative perception, and no relationship can be real without a representative perception. I had blogged about internet chats long back here. A scientific (and seemingly funny) explanation that I came up with at that time was:
Some of you have cited instances - touching ones - of people who they hadnt met/seen helping them like no *real* person would, who they confide to although they havent met them in person, and suchlike. Well, how does that make the *relationship* itself more real? That the so-called real people are less friendly is a sweeping statement. IMO, it is really upto the individual if s/he wants to go out of the way and help others. Virtuality has nothing to do with it. That people are willing to confide to a friend they met online is actually understandable because this whole virtual medium provides you an anonymity and a safe cucoon to unleash your feelings. Why else do we have some people with fake names here on BUF? Not many, but there are some I am sure. Its a matter of individual choice and none of my business but this is the very reason why this whole system of friendship over net/blog/orkut/whatever is virtual and wonderful. As I said before, reality is all about perceptions. Virtual media dont always give you a representative perception, and no relationship can be real without a representative perception. I had blogged about internet chats long back here. A scientific (and seemingly funny) explanation that I came up with at that time was:
"If a human body is an isolated system - which is a reasonable assumption - its entropy will always increase according to the second law of thermodynamics. In other words, humans cannot hold things within themselves beyond a point. They are always looking to give vent to these 'things'. And from the second law of thermodynamics, we know that we need gradients to make things flow. Internet chatroom is one such gradient-inducer - which the real world might not necessarily provide!"
Dont get me wrong, I am not demeaning the feelings people have for unseen faces. People behind those firewalls are real, and the way they feel for co-firewallers are just like the way they would feel in real life and there is nothing fake about it. All I am saying is these feelings are a by-product of novelty that the so-called virtual media provide, and hence they might be based on unrealism. Indeed, some people go on to make great friends after meeting their so-called net-friends, but we arent talking of virtual-turned-real friends. No matter how many megabytes of emails you have exchanged with a person, that first real meeting is much more than many gigabytes of texts.
If I were to die today - ok I know I am superyoung but let's assume a smoking hot blonde outrages my modesty and kills me - at max I would receive some email reminders from BUF admin asking me to explain my sudden absence. Beyond that, no one would care and know nothing and understandably so because by design, virtual medium keeps you away from reality. Real world doesnt.
Saturday, July 21, 2007
God! Does such a person really exists? :-By Stoned Imaculate
"Men never do evil so completely and cheerfully as when they do it from religious conviction" -Blaise Pascal
Definition of God's existenceToday in the West, the term "God" typically refers to a monotheistic concept of a Supreme Being that is unlike any other being. Classical theism asserts that God possesses every possible perfection, including such qualities as omniscience, omnipotence, and perfect benevolence. Of course this definition is not the only possible definition of "God". Other philosophical approaches take a logically simple definition of God such as "the Prime Mover" or "the Uncaused Cause", or "the Ultimate Creator" or "a being greater than which nothing can be conceived" from which the classical properties may be deduced.By contrast Pantheists do not believe in a personal God. For example, Spinoza and his philosophical followers (such as Einstein) use the term 'God' in a particular philosophical sense, to mean (roughly) the essential
substance/principles of Nature.
The 18th-century French author Baron d'Holbach
was one of the first self-described atheists.
In the Advaita Vedanta school of Hinduism, reality is ultimately seen as being a single, qualityless, changeless being called nirguna Brahman. However, nirguna Brahman is understood to be beyond "ordinary" human comprehension.What we ordinarily perceive - that is, a world of many things - is brought on by consequences of our actions.[citation needed] Thus, Advaitin philosophy introduces the concept of saguna Brahman or Ishvara as a way of talking about Brahman to people. Ishvara, in turn, is ascribed such qualities as omniscience, omnipotence, and benevolence.Polytheistic religions use the word "god" for multiple beings with varying degrees of power and abilities. Some stories such as those of Homer and Ovid portray gods arguing with, tricking and fighting with one another.
The problem of the supernatural~
One problem posed by the question of the existence of a God is that traditional beliefs usually ascribe to God various supernatural powers. Supernatural beings may be able to conceal and reveal themselves for their own purposes, as for example in the tale of Baucis and Philemon. In addition, according to most concepts of God, God is not part of the natural order, but the ultimate creator of nature and of the scientific laws.
Religious apologists offer the supernatural nature of God as one explanation of the inability of empirical methods to decide the question of God's existence. In Karl Popper's philosophy of science, the assertion of the existence of a supernatural God would be a non-falsifiable hypothesis, not in the domain of scientific investigation. The Non-overlapping Magisteria view proposed by Stephen Jay Gould also holds that the existence (or otherwise) of God is beyond the domain of Science.
Proponents of intelligent design (I.D.) believe there is empirical evidence for Irreducible complexity pointing to the existence of an intelligent creator, though their claims are challenged by most in the scientific community. Even some scientifically literate theists appear to have been impressed by the observation that certain natural laws and universal constants seem "fine-tuned" to favor the development of life (see Anthropic principle). However, reliance on phenomena which have not yet been resolved by natural explanations may be equated to the pejorative God of the gaps.
Logical positivists, such as Rudolph Carnap and A. J. Ayer viewed any talk of gods as literally nonsense. For the logical positivists and adherents of similar schools of thought, statements about religious or other transcendent experiences could not have a truth value, and were deemed to be without meaning.
Strong atheism~
Strong atheism is the position that a god or gods do not exist. The strong atheist explicitly asserts god's non-existence. Some strong atheists further assert that the existence of some or all gods is logically impossible, for example claiming that the combination of attributes which God may be asserted to have (For example: omnipotence, omniscience, omnipresence, transcendence, omnibenevolence) is logically contradictory, incomprehensible, or absurd, and therefore that the non-existence of such a God is a priori true. It needs to be noted that believing the qualities of a particular God to be contradictory is not the sole basis of strong atheist; many strong atheists would assert that, owing to the lack of evidence, even a God described in a manner that was not contradictory is still unlikely to exist. It should also be noted that many religions credit human achievements to God, many strong atheists consider this to be outrageous, and that human achievements are the result of millions of years of inspiration and innovation.
Weak atheism~
The term weak atheism is used of those who do not believe that a god or gods exists. This is different from agnosticism which states that the existence of God is either unknown or unknowable. There is some controversy in the use of this term. Richard Dawkins in The God Delusion uses the term "strong atheist" but not "weak atheist"
In short, i'm still confused as to the fact that there is indeed a God? I believe that there exists a certain supernatural power or watever you may call that.. But wheter that can be termed as God is a big question ?
Monday, July 16, 2007
remembering Natasha:- By Ishita
I was browsing through the newspaper while having lunch and the obituary section caught my eye...a name long forgotten...Natasha Singh. Anyone remember her? Daughter in law of of Natwar Singh (ex minister) and wife of Jagat Singh...Was it murder or an accident or as the police claimed in their final report a case of suicide? A hyped up case which brought up numerous debates and prime time news stories on TV. Her life lay bare ... scrutinised by the media. Young, attractive, mother of two adorable children, she went through a difficult marriage and was at the time living seperately. Her husband had the children with him. She was seeing another man at the time and seemed to be moving on with her life though later the police claimed she was depressed and hence the suicide. Read an initial media report here
The initial media reports talked of murder. But remember her father in law was no ordinary man and neither was her husband a nobody. She had earlier requested protection after an attack.
Public memory is short and the media finds a new story every day. And once the police gave its final report, it didn't take time for people to move on to the next big story.But... was it really that simple?
Natasha was a friend of Natwar Singh's daughter Ritu Singh and met Jagat through her. Now strangely and coincidentally, two months after Natasha's tragic death, Ritu committed suicide in her father's house ... hung herself. The reason cited was that Natasha's death left her in shock and she never really was herself again.
Just a coincidence? Two deaths...same family...
An sms sent from Natasha's cell fone on the night she died said "I am going to another world" ...
When I read the obituary all these thoughts came flooding back to my mind. I didn't know Natasha personally. I do not the facts of the case. But in my heart I do believe what the world saw of the case and it's solution, is not the truth. That the initial suspicions of foul play were squashed because it involved a high profile politician and his family.
I remember the news stories that showed Natasha's friends and family speak of her as a loving mother to her children and I remember them talking of the broken marriage. But also of her moving on with a new relationship and living her life. I know there are many times when people kill themselves and those around them simply have no clue about their state of mind but Natasha just never came across as someone who did not love life...
Now the sun will set today evening and a new day will come up tomorrow...and the papers will have new stories...and I will simply get on with another regular day...
That's life...
But right at this moment, I feel for a life lost young and in a manner harsh and cruel...
Saturday, July 14, 2007
I am a bitch, I am a lover, I am a child, I am a mother, I am a sinner, I am a saint…:-By Chandni
Of course you know about Michael Noer’s article at Forbe’s on professional women, marriage, divorces and men? ? And how it is getting reactions and responses from all over?
I really don’t understand what the commotion is all about??? All that this poor man said, was that
“Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don’t marry a woman with a career.
Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it……”
And hey…give the guy some leeway…he is ultimately speaking in the interest of keeping marriages in place and men happy… ( Folks from Save Indian Families for instance, aren’t you proud of me??)
One must understand that Men (The species that’s God’s gift to earth AND Women) lead stressful lives. The last thing they need is the fear that their wives are having an affair at work because they have found a “co-worker” they like better than their husbands. One can’t risk her seeing you for the oaf that you are, so the simple solution: Find women who don’t have any careers. The only men they’re likely to meet are in the realm of the household and are let’s say, less of a threat may be. She won’t prefer the plumber over you now, will she?
Secondly, the article says that career women are less likely to have children. No babies??!!?? Pray, what is the use of marrying the bitch anyway then? Blasphemous!
Pst Pst. He has also suggested that she isn’t going to be happy with you if she earns more. And you of course wouldn’t be happy if she earned more. So basically, no way can the woman earn more than you, because you just can’t be happy! So I suggest you best bet is to find a high school drop out may be, or someone who can’t ever hold a job…that way you can stay secure about her never doing well, and I hope that’ll make you feel just a little better.
Thus, the moral of the story is that career minded professional chicks are a bad bet in every way….imagine,
- the house will be dirty ( cleaning the house is her job that she’s going to neglect for her career),
- you will fall ill ( momma might not be around to nurse the 30 year old child-man in diapers),
- she might cheat on you ( she will discover those smart better men you have tried so hard to keep her away from) and what’s worse,
- she may even divorce you !!!!(these women I tell you… they are NEVER satisfied, such high aspirations!), and what’s the pits??
- she might not give you any bunny bundles of joy (I ask again, what is the point of marrying her then anyway? The baby factory has to work!)
So thank you Mr Noer, that’s sound advice. And I completely support you. Make sure men don’t marry professional housekeepers women, and do US women a favour. We’re better off single.
And Dear Mr Noer, while we’re at at, take that article and shove it up you-know-where.
And guys, also take a look here and here.
I am outta here!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Month ending on happy note:- By Sara aka Dewdrop
(Vikas Kaul, Mala and Me)June 29th and 30th
I wish you...
Peace in every activity
Passion in a teardrop of sadness
A piano score and lyrics to your thoughts
Liquid hope for when you are emotionally dried up
Blankets of faith over fearfields of confusion
A six-pack of diet love with a twist of serenity
Baubles of tenderness on a Christmas tree of affection
Dreams in the shape of star-crushed diamonds
Sparkling eternity into a moment forever.
I really really miss u my friend, the reason i mentioned this is that this was the first time somebody had wished me with so much love and affection.
Women-Do i love them or what :- Vikas Kaul
I love all sorts of women - pretty ones, not-so-pretty ones, dumb ones, smart ones, nice n caring ones, fat, thin, ugly-who-thinks-she-is-pretty-cuz-her-hot-friend-made-her-believe-so types too!! Even though the last one is unfair, but its all good. Why is it unfair? It's unfair to the guy who talks to her n she acts pricey. She - the ugly one, of all the women in the world - acts pricey. These hot women might, sometimes, be genuinely nice but ladies!! look at what you are doing to us men. *sigh*
There have been numerous attempts to understand women. And, obviously, they have failed. Except for one. The one that concluded that women have 400 different faces. O yeah! If you have been with a woman (women) before, my friend, you know exactly what I am talking about. I am not going to turn myself into a martyr for a lost cause :)
For quite some time I have been reading about how disgusting men are. It's all so true. What is also true that everything that I read was written by women. Well, the MCP that I am, I had to write something in response. So, I happened to think about how disgusting women were. Fair enough, isn't it?
Now, I have had my share of experiences, but this goes way beyond my personal experiences. This is about the entire female-dom.
Allow me to present my case.
Imagine the following (having a gf/wife/mistress? would help the visualization process) -
You come home - a place one considers next to heaven only, a place for love, a place to relax, have fun, a place for peace .. STOP! .. what? Peace? Ooo nyoooooo nyoooooo. If you are with a woman, peace is a word that you must scratch out of your mind, let alone your dictionary.
Why is that?
All you have to do is ask one tiny little question - "How was your day, honey?" And trust me, you are done for the next half hour. There are those women, who won't even let you say a word. They just go at it man! There is no stopping them. You feel as if a Japanese bullet train ran over you! Anyhow, how does the conversation go, if at all there is one? She talks .. you listen. You can't take anyone else's side.
Side?? Yep! If you say anything even slightly mild, forget about a compliment, about some other person in context i.e. if you are being reasonable, you are taking sides! Yes, Sir! It's like how Bush reacted after 9/11 - either you are on our side or theirs. Now, if you did "take sides", by mere serendipity, you have to listen for another half an hour of music. If she looks like Condi Rice and has a high frequency pair of vocal chords, you better buy yourself ear-plugs and dark sunglasses. And, if you gave a compliment to some other person (more so if its a lady), you have a rhino-whino freaking out.
In some cases, you can talk. And this how you talk - "Oh! Really?" "NOOO!!" "I SEE!" "WOW!" "OH MY GOD!" "GET OUTA HERE!" "YOU ARE KIDDIN ME! RIGHT?" " Ahaan..okay." "YEAH?" "COOL!"
Mix up such words in any combination you want in a week. Trust me! She'll believe you are actually listening. You think I am being mean. Suit yourself dude - TAKE SIDES! And then, listen for another half an hour. And by the way, it's not an advice. This is what happens- for real!!
It's all good though. Anything for food man!
A quick tip for ladies here: If your guy can cook well and has stayed by himself for more than a few years, you better watch out. You are a potential dumpee. Good cooks don't have to compromise. Rest have to! Necessity is the mother of .. compromise? Sometimes I think my mother didn't teach me how to cook properly because of this very reason. Smart mom, eh?
Now, if the above-mentioned "conversation" ends fast i.e. half an hour, it's your lucky day. Don't get too excited. You aren't so lucky to come across too many of these in this miserable lifetime of yours. You never know when the wind might change direction. And anything .. trust me .. anything that you say would be held against you in the court of .. your woman. Yeah - I am talking about the dreaded days .. the days where even the silliest thing could turn her on or the most romantic thing can make her mad .. real mad! and of course .. the most reasonable thing would sound ridiculous to her. Rationality is not something female-kind responds to very nicely. It simply eludes them. Did I forget to mention that the alleged conversation could involve someone in the world that you will never have any business with?
Imagine -
What would an American soldier be thinking about walking down the streets of Fallujah, Iraq? A bomb from the window .. a grenade attack .. or an RPG .. or gunfire .. or an IED blast .. anything from any direction.
That's how it is during those days. Anything can blow you up from any direction. You've got to be very careful! It's like walking on a mine-field. Experience is the ONLY way out that I know of. As soon as you sense it, surrender immediately! No questions asked! Just do it. That acts as a calming effect. The tigress would feel in control and you get your "peace". And then! you can have "the conversation". And the more shining eyes you have i.e. the more you are "listening", the more it helps. And if you add a few romantic bits here n there..from time to time...(could be outright disgusting to very debonair depending on the ambience and the woman)...with persistence..you will "prevail" my friend! wink wink
Some men can be very patient. And they can take it all. Yeah! Poor guys. But there is something even they can't take.
Let me share an experience. I moved into a new apartment recently. I noticed that the bathroom wash-basin/sink was choked. Well, unfortunately, I am that lets-fix-it kinda guy, sometimes. And that was the unfortunate day. It so happened that the sink had choked. After fiddling around with it with my tools I happened to see a dreaded gargantuan mass of hair!!! YUCK! Faint-hearted would have puked at that sight - honestly. Go -take a break, I know how it feels.
*sigh*
Let's imagine another scenario -
You, my ideal man, go into the kitchen, in a sudden outburst of divine generosity, to help her out (if she lets you - some won't let you in 10m radius of their kitchen-ground). Pick up a few things .. fiddle with this n that .. while singing a love song for her .. making a cup of coffee and a sandwich for her.. and there it is!!! THE HAIR!!! You hold it like you would hold a deadly venomous snake ...a black mamba-straight from the wild untamed Africa... your soul itself would be squeamish ..forget about the goose bumps and the churning belly.. and the chilling shudder that would run through your spine!! If I am lying, I would lovingly walk through into the dungeons of hell. You know I am NOT!
It's amazing what one strand of hair can do. My best wishes if you share the same bathroom/bed/kitchen or anything for that matter with a woman. You feel like praising her lovely hair now? Think twice dude! :) Those poets must've been drunk silly when they wrote odes about their hair! (Haathi jaisa tann hai tera...ghodey jaisey baal...VK version, but that's for some other time.)
But, you know, shit happens and besides, hair is natural. However, what is NOT natural is calling you twenty times at work to say "I love you". But the poor guy, the sweet person that he is, will never object. Because the girl won't take the truth nicely. Work is more important damn it! Love won't bake a bread for me, would it? But nyoooo! You have to TALK to her nicely. You have to say hello nicely...you have to listen..you have to respond too!..and you to have say Bye nicely..and before you keep the fone down..you have to utter I love you..at least 5 times. If you don't, another half an hour is busted. Give me a break!! How can my ideal man pay attention to his latest desktop screen saver - the Kingfisher swimsuit calendar? If that's not important - what is? Men in their 60s to boys not even in their teens must do it. It's a part of being straight. Otherwise, you know, my lady, its time for you to start searching a new beau for yourself. Take it or leave it. That's the deal.
If the guy is completely nice, then these very women ridicule him for being "naive".."doesn't know anything".."doesn't know how to treat women"..! All that won't come from a guy who hasn't been naughty, okay? Double-standards man! I tell ya!
Now, let's say the guy is the mysterious "good guy". It's a term floated by women who have no idea what they are talking about. I am yet to encounter this specie of men. "Good" is a very abstract term in any case. So, anyway, this good guy
There have been numerous attempts to understand women. And, obviously, they have failed. Except for one. The one that concluded that women have 400 different faces. O yeah! If you have been with a woman (women) before, my friend, you know exactly what I am talking about. I am not going to turn myself into a martyr for a lost cause :)
For quite some time I have been reading about how disgusting men are. It's all so true. What is also true that everything that I read was written by women. Well, the MCP that I am, I had to write something in response. So, I happened to think about how disgusting women were. Fair enough, isn't it?
Now, I have had my share of experiences, but this goes way beyond my personal experiences. This is about the entire female-dom.
Allow me to present my case.
Imagine the following (having a gf/wife/mistress? would help the visualization process) -
You come home - a place one considers next to heaven only, a place for love, a place to relax, have fun, a place for peace .. STOP! .. what? Peace? Ooo nyoooooo nyoooooo. If you are with a woman, peace is a word that you must scratch out of your mind, let alone your dictionary.
Why is that?
All you have to do is ask one tiny little question - "How was your day, honey?" And trust me, you are done for the next half hour. There are those women, who won't even let you say a word. They just go at it man! There is no stopping them. You feel as if a Japanese bullet train ran over you! Anyhow, how does the conversation go, if at all there is one? She talks .. you listen. You can't take anyone else's side.
Side?? Yep! If you say anything even slightly mild, forget about a compliment, about some other person in context i.e. if you are being reasonable, you are taking sides! Yes, Sir! It's like how Bush reacted after 9/11 - either you are on our side or theirs. Now, if you did "take sides", by mere serendipity, you have to listen for another half an hour of music. If she looks like Condi Rice and has a high frequency pair of vocal chords, you better buy yourself ear-plugs and dark sunglasses. And, if you gave a compliment to some other person (more so if its a lady), you have a rhino-whino freaking out.
In some cases, you can talk. And this how you talk - "Oh! Really?" "NOOO!!" "I SEE!" "WOW!" "OH MY GOD!" "GET OUTA HERE!" "YOU ARE KIDDIN ME! RIGHT?" " Ahaan..okay." "YEAH?" "COOL!"
Mix up such words in any combination you want in a week. Trust me! She'll believe you are actually listening. You think I am being mean. Suit yourself dude - TAKE SIDES! And then, listen for another half an hour. And by the way, it's not an advice. This is what happens- for real!!
It's all good though. Anything for food man!
A quick tip for ladies here: If your guy can cook well and has stayed by himself for more than a few years, you better watch out. You are a potential dumpee. Good cooks don't have to compromise. Rest have to! Necessity is the mother of .. compromise? Sometimes I think my mother didn't teach me how to cook properly because of this very reason. Smart mom, eh?
Now, if the above-mentioned "conversation" ends fast i.e. half an hour, it's your lucky day. Don't get too excited. You aren't so lucky to come across too many of these in this miserable lifetime of yours. You never know when the wind might change direction. And anything .. trust me .. anything that you say would be held against you in the court of .. your woman. Yeah - I am talking about the dreaded days .. the days where even the silliest thing could turn her on or the most romantic thing can make her mad .. real mad! and of course .. the most reasonable thing would sound ridiculous to her. Rationality is not something female-kind responds to very nicely. It simply eludes them. Did I forget to mention that the alleged conversation could involve someone in the world that you will never have any business with?
Imagine -
What would an American soldier be thinking about walking down the streets of Fallujah, Iraq? A bomb from the window .. a grenade attack .. or an RPG .. or gunfire .. or an IED blast .. anything from any direction.
That's how it is during those days. Anything can blow you up from any direction. You've got to be very careful! It's like walking on a mine-field. Experience is the ONLY way out that I know of. As soon as you sense it, surrender immediately! No questions asked! Just do it. That acts as a calming effect. The tigress would feel in control and you get your "peace". And then! you can have "the conversation". And the more shining eyes you have i.e. the more you are "listening", the more it helps. And if you add a few romantic bits here n there..from time to time...(could be outright disgusting to very debonair depending on the ambience and the woman)...with persistence..you will "prevail" my friend! wink wink
Some men can be very patient. And they can take it all. Yeah! Poor guys. But there is something even they can't take.
Let me share an experience. I moved into a new apartment recently. I noticed that the bathroom wash-basin/sink was choked. Well, unfortunately, I am that lets-fix-it kinda guy, sometimes. And that was the unfortunate day. It so happened that the sink had choked. After fiddling around with it with my tools I happened to see a dreaded gargantuan mass of hair!!! YUCK! Faint-hearted would have puked at that sight - honestly. Go -take a break, I know how it feels.
*sigh*
Let's imagine another scenario -
You, my ideal man, go into the kitchen, in a sudden outburst of divine generosity, to help her out (if she lets you - some won't let you in 10m radius of their kitchen-ground). Pick up a few things .. fiddle with this n that .. while singing a love song for her .. making a cup of coffee and a sandwich for her.. and there it is!!! THE HAIR!!! You hold it like you would hold a deadly venomous snake ...a black mamba-straight from the wild untamed Africa... your soul itself would be squeamish ..forget about the goose bumps and the churning belly.. and the chilling shudder that would run through your spine!! If I am lying, I would lovingly walk through into the dungeons of hell. You know I am NOT!
It's amazing what one strand of hair can do. My best wishes if you share the same bathroom/bed/kitchen or anything for that matter with a woman. You feel like praising her lovely hair now? Think twice dude! :) Those poets must've been drunk silly when they wrote odes about their hair! (Haathi jaisa tann hai tera...ghodey jaisey baal...VK version, but that's for some other time.)
But, you know, shit happens and besides, hair is natural. However, what is NOT natural is calling you twenty times at work to say "I love you". But the poor guy, the sweet person that he is, will never object. Because the girl won't take the truth nicely. Work is more important damn it! Love won't bake a bread for me, would it? But nyoooo! You have to TALK to her nicely. You have to say hello nicely...you have to listen..you have to respond too!..and you to have say Bye nicely..and before you keep the fone down..you have to utter I love you..at least 5 times. If you don't, another half an hour is busted. Give me a break!! How can my ideal man pay attention to his latest desktop screen saver - the Kingfisher swimsuit calendar? If that's not important - what is? Men in their 60s to boys not even in their teens must do it. It's a part of being straight. Otherwise, you know, my lady, its time for you to start searching a new beau for yourself. Take it or leave it. That's the deal.
If the guy is completely nice, then these very women ridicule him for being "naive".."doesn't know anything".."doesn't know how to treat women"..! All that won't come from a guy who hasn't been naughty, okay? Double-standards man! I tell ya!
Now, let's say the guy is the mysterious "good guy". It's a term floated by women who have no idea what they are talking about. I am yet to encounter this specie of men. "Good" is a very abstract term in any case. So, anyway, this good guy
Monday, July 9, 2007
Shot right through your head:- by pRicky
Just finished watching 'Shoot out at Lokhandwala'.
This isn't a film review. I don't know enough about movies to be able to give any view worthwhile but I did recognise some questions which aren't unique to my neurons rather I borrow them from the movie. Now, many of you out there wouldn't find it worth your while to watch a non intellectual movie. I digress slightly here cause even though it was a wham bam action violence glorification, it still managed to point out the simplest of all questions out in the open.
Now I am sure this movie isn't the first one to do it. I merely point it out cause I noticed it.
The movie shows a group of boys who make Mumbai their own backyard to do as they choose.
Villains!
I am not sure. These boys didn't grow up to become what they did. They didn't get inducted into fanatic tutorials to get things done on the will of a bully. These boys could have been anything but their circumstances, their situation pushed them to be what they became or at least had an ambition to become- The Kings of Mumbai.
I hope no one counters that they should have done something else with their will and they would have succeeded and they could have contributed in the betterment of the society and would have become legends. The true under dog story of triumph!
I am not quite sure that possibility of being the example of being great in a society where they lived under impoverished and abused existence would have allowed. They could either suppress or be suppressed. They could either be bullied or bully.
Now that doesn't mean that they did the right thing by clasping the gun and shooting and killing when they needed to establish themselves because their business runs on FEAR. But it doesn't even say that what they did was wrong. The survival theory.
How can we as a society answer or change the way things are? No philosophical answer can answer this. Nor can the blame game do any good but what can?
Each time we see an encounter mentioned exactly how many of you think it is fishy? I mean how many Indians actually believe in their Police?
And when there do come along a group of officers who answer an eye for an eye, a storm of human right violation rises. The police is for enforcing not reforming. What is expected of them to be shot at but not retaliate? To forget that their partner who was also their friend of ten years was brutally killed while facing the same criminal who would be freed in a matter of hours and would then come back to salvage his pride and wipe out the belief which a few people courageously have in their police?
And exactly who knows of a perfect system existing where there are no chinks?
And how many of us have the courage to join the police? Army is fine but Police...
I am quite lost here because things aren't as glorious in the real as is on celluloid of the big screen and a police officers life is a few grands and who wants to die? I mean if you did get into a fight with a group of goons would you fight? or would you think that they have nothing to lose but you have more to lose in a fight than by letting them bully you and take your wallet and molest the person you are with?
I am not quite sure but it repulses me to think that most (and I don't exclude myself from the most for even a bit) wouldn't stand up to these people who have become the way they have because they needed to survive and we cow down because we need to survive.
Who would you rather have at your door with a gun? a gangster who you pay for protection or a brave police officer was one of questions which this movie spelt out.
The other was how will the society decide who's right and who's wrong?
The criminal they created or the policemen they developed?
But alas I can just type away gloriously... what can I do?
laughable and pathetic is all that it seems when I can just talk but hardly contribute. Why would some be around only to be bullied?
Questions are all I have. It would be a relief to know a few answers for once and be able to act on them.
This isn't a film review. I don't know enough about movies to be able to give any view worthwhile but I did recognise some questions which aren't unique to my neurons rather I borrow them from the movie. Now, many of you out there wouldn't find it worth your while to watch a non intellectual movie. I digress slightly here cause even though it was a wham bam action violence glorification, it still managed to point out the simplest of all questions out in the open.
Now I am sure this movie isn't the first one to do it. I merely point it out cause I noticed it.
The movie shows a group of boys who make Mumbai their own backyard to do as they choose.
Villains!
I am not sure. These boys didn't grow up to become what they did. They didn't get inducted into fanatic tutorials to get things done on the will of a bully. These boys could have been anything but their circumstances, their situation pushed them to be what they became or at least had an ambition to become- The Kings of Mumbai.
I hope no one counters that they should have done something else with their will and they would have succeeded and they could have contributed in the betterment of the society and would have become legends. The true under dog story of triumph!
I am not quite sure that possibility of being the example of being great in a society where they lived under impoverished and abused existence would have allowed. They could either suppress or be suppressed. They could either be bullied or bully.
Now that doesn't mean that they did the right thing by clasping the gun and shooting and killing when they needed to establish themselves because their business runs on FEAR. But it doesn't even say that what they did was wrong. The survival theory.
How can we as a society answer or change the way things are? No philosophical answer can answer this. Nor can the blame game do any good but what can?
Each time we see an encounter mentioned exactly how many of you think it is fishy? I mean how many Indians actually believe in their Police?
And when there do come along a group of officers who answer an eye for an eye, a storm of human right violation rises. The police is for enforcing not reforming. What is expected of them to be shot at but not retaliate? To forget that their partner who was also their friend of ten years was brutally killed while facing the same criminal who would be freed in a matter of hours and would then come back to salvage his pride and wipe out the belief which a few people courageously have in their police?
And exactly who knows of a perfect system existing where there are no chinks?
And how many of us have the courage to join the police? Army is fine but Police...
I am quite lost here because things aren't as glorious in the real as is on celluloid of the big screen and a police officers life is a few grands and who wants to die? I mean if you did get into a fight with a group of goons would you fight? or would you think that they have nothing to lose but you have more to lose in a fight than by letting them bully you and take your wallet and molest the person you are with?
I am not quite sure but it repulses me to think that most (and I don't exclude myself from the most for even a bit) wouldn't stand up to these people who have become the way they have because they needed to survive and we cow down because we need to survive.
Who would you rather have at your door with a gun? a gangster who you pay for protection or a brave police officer was one of questions which this movie spelt out.
The other was how will the society decide who's right and who's wrong?
The criminal they created or the policemen they developed?
But alas I can just type away gloriously... what can I do?
laughable and pathetic is all that it seems when I can just talk but hardly contribute. Why would some be around only to be bullied?
Questions are all I have. It would be a relief to know a few answers for once and be able to act on them.
Behind the veil :- Niv
I love reading. Enough said. The first time i read Princess , i was totally disgusted with the immaturities that was on parade. These women are deprived of their rights. Normal rights. Sometimes it makes me wonder , it's a great surprise that Saudi women are allowed to breathe.. and i wont be surprised if one day , the man in their country pass them an oxygen mask , such that limiting the breathing hour. Honestly.Here's an excerpt
[They] are forbidden to drive, forbidden to travel without permission, forbidden to stay alone at a hotel without permission, forbidden to name their own children without [a man's] consent... forbidden to take out a passport without permission... forbidden to leave their homes without permission... forbidden to take a job without permission... forbidden to change the color of their abayas, forbidden to go to school or to the university without permission... forbidden to purchase shares or to open to a [bank] account in their children's name without permission. "[A woman] is not allowed to expose her face in some cities of the kingdom...[She] is not allowed to marry without permission...not allowed to stay married if [one of] her male relatives decides that her husband's [tribal] lineage is inferior to hers...not allowed to sue for divorce without apologizing and paying a fine, not allowed to keep her children after the divorce, unless she gets permission...not allowed to hold a senior position in the private or public sectors, not allowed to vote or run for office...not allowed to travel alone with a chauffeur... not allowed to annoy her husband, and finally, a woman's voice is considered [a form of] defilement, and she is forbidden to speak in public, so that her affairs will remain shrouded in secrecy.
I simply fail to see the reason how a nation has managed to come up with such a dehumanizing view on women. what gave anyone the rights to evoke the rights of another? May it be the ruler. I strongly believe that the religion did not oppress their rights , but it's actually another being that takes pride on being the dominant sex. Men suppressed their rights , culture has oppressed their voices and besides living in constant fear..i wonder what is going on behind those veils. The veil covers you, not your brains. Do something.
